The other day, while I was working, I was given perhaps the best compliment of all time: "You look so good! Your tummy is adorable!" As a "fat girl", most compliments consist of things like "you're not fat" or "have you lost weight?" or "you look so skinny" which is all fine and dandy, but it continues this unspoken prejudice against chubby ladies. It makes the assumption that being chubby is the opposite of being attractive and can be really damaging to someone who walks around with more weight than others may. It may not seem like a big deal, this person commenting on my tummy, but it made a massive difference to me. Her asserting that I am both attractive and chubby was simply delightful, and gave me a massive self-esteem boost entirely unrelated to how thin or fat I look.
I am trying to remember that I am lovely at pretty much whatever weight, and that I should only make efforts to lose weight for myself-- not for others or to shift the way people look at me.
Today, I'm happy to be a little bit fat.
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